Bad Boy Syndrome

I was reflecting the other day and looking back at my teenage years and the boys that I chose to date and be involved with before I met my husband and I realized that I had what they call “bad boy syndrome”.
Remember in the movie “Grease” Sandy being attracted to Danny? I was always involved with the Danny of my day.

Well I began to ask my older more wiser self why were you attracted to these boys knowing that nothing good could come from this? 

Well the sixteen year old me said “ They were fun, passionate, exciting and mysterious” and I was young and had this crazy idea that I could tame the flame but instead many times I just ended up getting burned. The bad boys I dated weren’t all bad and that what was attracted me to them. They let me into their kinder more softer and even intimate side. I am an optimist at heart and even at a young age I believed that people could change. These relationships were brief as my truth meter would always wake me up and help me to realize that if I continued it could end dangerously. 

Though many times my heart was broken in pieces and I cried myself out of the break up I always seemed to dodge the bullet. I dated a person that later became a drug dealer and died as an addict. I was in a relationship with a cheater that ended up having multiple babies with different women. Then there was the boyfriend that left me for my best friend, or how about the guy who ended up spending 20 years in jail. Then there was the bullet I wasn’t able to dodge in the boyfriend that raped me. I have a few more that I can only imagine how their stories ended.

But after all this I found the good guy in my now husband of 27 years. He was an answer to prayer but the more I look back and remember it I truly believe that my homing beacon knew that I could never accomplish my purpose in life if I was connected in covenant with the wrong person. Because I rejected the “bad boys” I was available to meet the “right boy”. I was also blessed that he had passion, excitement and was a bit mysterious. 

I just want to warn all you young girls and women out there that are interested in the good looking, hot passionate guy that has a bad streak. Listen to the truth you know and walk the other way. Find the person that will compliment your purpose , the one that will love you unconditionally, faithfully and that you can trust with your heart. Broken pieces are not easy to put back together but worse is a thwarted and delayed destiny. Don't let a bad boy cause you not to reach your full potential.