A few months ago
I was talking with my oldest daughter and she asked me the strangest question.
She was speaking on her cell phone with a group of friends that were having a
social media conversation around the following question, “Can you delete your ho-ness”?
I asked her what
is “ho-ness”?
She began to
describe the way the conversation had begun, that they were discussing a female
that they had all known in high school who was known back then as a “ho”.
Supposedly she was now dating one of their friends and claimed that she no
longer was the woman of her past.
I looked up the
term from an urban dictionary/ ebonics type of slang and it says a ho is
another name for whore, “
a
woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money or
personal gain; prostitute; harlot; strumpet. verb (used without object),
whored, whoring, to act as a whore.
A woman who uses her body or gives the impression that she will for material
gain or to boost her own ego”.
So they were
having a discussion about someone being able to just delete their “ho-ness”.
My daughter
turned to me and seriously asked me this question once again and I immediately
said yes. In that short moment I was reminded that when I was a teenager by
definition I may have been described by others as a "ho". I became
sexually promiscuous at a young age for many reasons. One of those being that I
was sexually abused as a young girl and the other was having major daddy issues,
causing me to be unable to discern the premature relationships I was in and thinking
that lust and love were the same thing. But then something happened that
deleted my "ho-ness".
After a few more
minutes of discussion that this girl was a serious ho not just your average ho
and someone else making the statement “Once a ho… always a ho”. I couldn’t stay
quiet even though this was a social media young person conversation. I began to
explain loudly about the women in the Bible that had their "ho-ness" deleted by
Jesus.
These women were
serious about promiscuity.
Imagine you were
there with the woman caught in the very act of adultery. There were these men
that had dragged her to Jesus so that he would condemn her to death according to
the laws of the Torah. But they did not understand that he had come to delete
her ho-ness.
There was the woman
at the well who Jesus exposed by putting a prophetic mirror in front of her, telling
her about her past, her present and the possibility of her future. Surely when
their conversation was over her ho-ness was completely deleted.
Mary Magdalene
may be my favorite ho- After he deleted
her ho-ness she became a true follower of Jesus and is mentioned by name as one
of the women that had the privilege of being at the tomb when Jesus was resurrected.
In Jesus’
lineage there was a few women that others called a “ho” or harlot in biblical
language and again they received the privilege of having their names mentioned
in the Kingly genealogy. Women like Rahab and Ruth and Tamar who just pretended
to be a ho to get her destiny fulfilled.
A few weeks
later I was thinking about this interaction and I remembered something very
significant and also funny. When my husband and myself had decided to get
married we were new believers and did not really understand any Christianese
language. We heard it preached and our Pastor teaching about “fornication”
being sin but didn’t understand what it was. We were living together and
already had a baby and never understood that you weren’t supposed to be having
sex when you weren’t married. Whenever someone said that fornication was wrong
we kept saying “Amen”, not getting that we were the people they were talking
about!! So when our Pastor taught us
this in our marriage counselling we both decided to not have sex until we got
married 5 months later. We prayed and asked God to forgive us and to re-virginize
(our new word) us until our wedding day. This was not easy as we had lived
together for 4 years but we believed that Jesus could delete our ho- ness.
26 years later of
being a believer and I have seen the forgiveness of Jesus and the grace of God
delete more than just ho- ness from so many people. Drug dealers, liars,
thieves, alcoholics, addicts, fornicators, adulterers, prostitutes, murderers, prisoners
and demoniacs all transformed. So I had
to share that I am a firm believer that today
you can delete your ho ness , clean your slate, re-virginize, erase your past
and have a fresh start, cause Jesus came
to delete our ho-ness.